Do you believe in “true love”?

by Anil Salick on October 9, 2017

Define “true love” then…

Could true love mean:

  1. A faithful one on one relationship/ life partnership
  2. That the love you have for another is true/ real not false/ pretence
  3. A 70 year old marriage of adorable peeps who stuck together
  4. That there’s only true person in the whole wide world for you
  5. That true love is a verb, doing, making effort, doing the small things for another
  6. Or… if all the above stresses you out – not with humans, but your favourite pet

A friend of mine posted this question on social media. I subconsciously defined “true love” to me and proceeded to answering as follows:

“I think true love is sentimental. It’s ‘wish’ and ‘want’ thinking – what we wish to be ‘true/ real’. And that’s okay for people who wish ‘true love’ to be so. 7 plus billion people on the planet, it’s fallacious (and blindspotted to what you don’t know) to think that there’s just one person who constitutes true love for one human being.”

“You make your life choice/ partner what you wish it to be. I don’t think its written in the stars or fate – then I would need evidence. Things happens, one encounter/ choice and how other people come into our life. For a 70 year relationship that works out like below, consider the many that start off as such – and something (accident, brain damage, illness, silly choice etc) that makes things not work out. We count (cherry pick) ‘hits and not misses. I’ve been married for almost 20 years – and consider myself ‘lucky’ to have a great life partner and wonderful kids. I don’t know exactly how everything happened, but I am grateful that it did. And, yes relationships take work and effort and the small things matter.”

Have your say below…


Why be conformist in your career and lifestyle?

by Anil Salick on July 5, 2017

The paradigm in which most of us grew up taught us the following: “Go to school, study hard, get good grades, go to university, work for a good company, save, buy a house, get married, have kids, retire financially secure, visit the world/ spend time playing golf, fishing or taking care of the grandkids, and live happy/ fulfilled”

Did you get them right in that order?

Success, in the mainstream, is pretty much defined by the above.

Let’s consider if you broke the rules, or worse ‘failed’:

  • You got bad grades
  • You didn’t go to university
  • You didn’t earn enough and invest wisely
  • You got divorced
  • You didn’t/ couldn’t/ wouldn’t have kids
  • Etcetera..

Some lessons:

  1. No matter what happens to you, you should not allow yourself to be defined by what society deems the norm
  2. You have the power to change your situation around at any point if you view whatever is happening in context
  3. None of us are automatons. No matter what has influenced our views or aspirations, our journeys are unique and we script a story to inspire others. Even if what you went through appears a failure to others

“For what is a man, what has he got
If not himself, then he has naught
To say the things he truly feels
And not the words of one who kneels
The record shows I took the blows
And did it my way
Yes, it was my way”

– Frank Sinatra, My Way



Why We Must Think About Strategy

May 8, 2017

‘Strategy’ is a noun. ‘Strategically’ is an adverb. An adverb describes more about the verb or doing. Each of us can ask ourselves, “How is my ‘doing’? Is it strategically – i.e. with purpose, consideration, intent, big picture driven, tactical? Or – is my doing – chance, hope, without end in mind, going through the […]

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“You’re a racist!” – the new jab in SA

April 12, 2017

“You’re a racist!”…. “That’s racist”… “That’s white privilege”… “White monopoly capital is our enemy”… The recent weeks and months have highlighted the following: “If you are critical of Jacob Zuma’s ANC government – then you’re a racist. If you support Helen Zille’s tweet that colonialism was not ALL bad – then you’re a racist. If you […]

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A twitter survey on #ZumaMustFall

April 10, 2017

After a day of #AntiZumaMarch and protests held all over South Africa, I posted the following tweet survey – and this was the result 24 hours later. Let’s dissect and explore some meaning: Zuma will go, in… #AntiZumaMarches #zumamustgo — Anil Salick (@AnilSalick) April 8, 2017 Of 1779 responders on twitter:

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